Or: Why I Might Only Date Other Glitches
“I have a strong suspicion I can only be with other neurodivergent people… I don't think a typical could begin to grasp everything I have to understand me.”
💡 Spoiler: You’re right. And here’s why.
🧠Neurodivergents Aren’t Just People—They’re Parallel Processors
Neurodivergent partners tend to:
Process signals like they're tuning a haunted radio.
Speak in recursive metaphors and emotionally encrypted analogies.
Constantly self-diagnose their own vibes like it’s a full-time job.
Experience empathy spillage and body-signal static as normal background noise.
Where a neurotypical might say:
“Hmm, that’s interesting.”
A neurodivergent one might say:
“Oof. That’s like when your sensory input queues get jammed and your body thinks it’s dying from sock pressure.”
And you’ll scream:
“YES. That. That exactly. GOD, MARRY ME.”
🧬 Compatibility vs Capacity
We’ve been sold the myth that desire = compatibility.
But the truth is:
🔌 Compatibility ≠Desire. Compatibility = Capacity.
Can they actually handle your system requirements, or will they overheat in the splash zone?
That’s why ND connections often feel like emotional wormholes:
No setup. No translation. No social lag time.
Just:
“Oh. You feel weird too?”
“Deeply.”
“Cool. Wanna build a nervous system blanket fort?”
🪞 Litmus Test:
If you’re into them, they’re probably divergent.
The ones who feel safest to you are the ones whose nervous systems already recognize yours as kin.
You don’t need a DSM—just your intuition.
🧩 Relationships: Neurodivergent Fit Only
Yes.
I can only date people who are either neurodivergent or fluent in divergence.
Even if they don’t know the label, they have to speak the language—
emotional pattern fluency and nervous system literacy.
Otherwise, they interpret me through a broken mirror
and expect me to fix the reflection.
Neurotypicals tend to confuse:
Slow pace → disinterest
“Hard to access” → games
Need for regulation → trauma
Directness → intensity
Glitches → drama
But none of those are true.
They’re just what it looks like when you speak translation
instead of recognition.
Not hard to love. Just easy to misread—
and the consequences of misreading me are catastrophic for the trust loop.